Accepting the Inevitable —

“Suffer what there is to suffer, enjoy what there is to enjoy. Regard both suffering and joy as facts of life, and continue chanting (Namu-myoho-renge-kyo) no matter what happens.” ~ Nichiren Daishonin I think this pretty much sums it up; there are some things in life that just are the way that they are. We often […]

via Accepting the Inevitable —

What a beautiful post and I am so sorry that you have had to experience the rejection of your family.

Chanting and Buddhism has also helped me in a similar way. While I have a wonderful relationship with my mother and brother, my father is no longer a part of my life; he disowned me when I was 19 and came out as transgender (nonbinary). We had a terrible relationship before that point, and it is irredeemable.

I have come to accept that he simply is unable to give me the love that a father should.  He has his own burdens, including mental illness which went undiagnosed into his 60s. I feel great compassion for him now, understanding that much of what happened during my childhood was because of his own deep suffering. I now understand that it was never about me being unlovable or a bad child; he was simply too sick, too entrenched in his own misery, to offer me love.

Sometimes accepting and moving on with compassion and love, and walking forward on our own path, is the best thing we can do for ourselves and others.

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One thought on “Accepting the Inevitable —

  1. I thoroughly appreciate this and I’m also sorry for what you had to go through. I think in the end, acceptance and compassion are both vital in order for us to grow, heal and move forward. It seems you’ve been able to do just that and it’s truly inspirational. Thank you so much. **Gassho**

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